I watched a video recently, a church women conference, a woman asked the counsellors a question on what she was going to do about her abusive husband. She said he beats her almost every time, he is an alcoholic and he is jobless. One of the counsellors, they were about four counsellors on stage, spoke up, and the first thing she said was what did you to do him? That you see you can’t talk down on a battered man (yes I agree), a man who is slowly ebbing away, a man whose manhood is taken away due to joblessness and you are running your mouth at him, she said she has been in an abusive marriage and she was the cause, that her husband was a soldier, and she talks down at him whenever he gets back home, and that he beats her blue black whenever she does this. She further advised the woman to keep praying that there is nothing prayer cannot do (yes I agree)and that if she doesn’t see result she should bear her cross! I can’t remember all that she said, but I knew my stomach twisted and I felt pity for the woman who asked this question, I felt sad and was regretting on her behalf why she asked that question. You see, before that woman summoned the courage to speak out in such a public place she is desperate and that was a cry for help, a cry for understanding, a cry for empathy and that counsellor exhibited none, none whatsoever.
May 3, 2024
