I am a Man and I carry a whole lots of burdens

Being a responsible and honorable man is no joke, it requires being a burden bearer, in fact a responsible and a honourable man can be defined as a beast of burden. They have this urge to always do right by their family. Such a man would leave a pressing office matter to attend to something that  seems like a need to the family, he has this urge to always make his family comfortable and everyone happy. Such men carry a whole load of burden in their heart, that only a sensitive wife can unearth and help lessen the effect of such burdens.  They are scared of falling short in their responsibilities, they are constantly worried of not being able to deliver as always, they are worried of not being able to take care of their family.

They are worried of a whole load of things and if they don’t have a sensitive and an emotionally supportive wife, such men can snap and become a totally different person from whom they have been to the surprise and shock of the people around them. As women, if you have this kind of man, please stay attuned to his emotions, if he is an introvert then you have a huge work cut out for you, You need to unearth whatever can be going on in his mind, introverts do a lot of internalizing, which can be very dangerous for the health of the man being described in this post.

Listen more to him when he tries to tell you anything, give him your rapt attention even if you have 1001 house chores running through your brain, and that was not the right time for any form of discussion, listen and even ask questions, you would see he would open up more and more and get comfortable to share his innermost thoughts with you. (As I write this, you won’t believe I am also learning from it lol). Anytime he shares give him one or two possible solutions and leave it to him to decide the best way to handle the issue after you must have offered your advise and encouragement.

As a man being described in this post, you need to learn how to open up to your wife sir, though intuitive as a woman, her intuition is not always accurate, and she can’t read your mind, you need to see her as a partner whom you can trust to tell your innermost worries to. Trust me, a good woman appreciates when her man shares his innermost worries with her, she would do anything to make that worry go away, and would do anything to cover such a man.  It’s no time to live  in a prolonged season of monosyllabic words, trust me it’s hazardous to your health as  a man, open up  to your wife sir, that is why she is your helpmeet, she would always meet you half way so far you take the first bold step.

Instead of resorting to violence should you have a nagging wife who refuses to understand or walk with you in your down season, I would suggest you do one thing in addition to dwelling on the roof top as discussed in one of my previous post HERE, to curtail her nagging and annoying actions, get a punching bag boxing-bagand punch away anytime she starts, the more she talks you punch hard, the more she continues punch harder and even devise a way of punching every part of the bag, I tell you she would get the message and if she values her fine girl like me, she would shut her mouth immediately LOL.  This action has achieved two results, you would realise you have pushed out your anger and frustration on the bag, and your wife would get the message that those punches could have as well being her body so she would stop being a nag and also control her mouth and actions following that incidence.

All in all I understand a bit what it is to be a responsible man who bears a whole lot of burden, and I pray and hope God continues to shine His light on your paths, may you not be weary, may you not be cut short in your prime, may love continue to keep you and every of your loved ones together.

My fellow sisters, cherish that good man, look around you, you hear bad stories everyday, don’t take what you have for granted, good men abound, but they don’t also come cheap or always, cherish yours totally and always have his back in all situations, the man would keep improving and his desire would be to be the best for you in everything.

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