Category: From the bottom of my heart!

A column where authors write out their hearts with no holds barred.

The Culture of Mother Blaming

The Culture of Mother Blaming

Adeola sat on the couch, drifting in and out of sleep, trying to stay awake in order to hear Jade when she wakes up. It’s been a hectic day for Adeola, she is on maternity leave for three months and she has not found it easy. The only time she rested was the first three…

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Dear woman, know God by yourself to avoid mental torture and emotional blackmail.

Dear woman, know God by yourself to avoid mental torture and emotional blackmail.

Sometimes last year, I watched a video which went viral. In that video  a church was holding a women only meeting . It was time for questions and a woman stood up and narrated her marital ordeal. She talked about how her husband smokes, gets drunk and exhibited all sorts of destructive attitudes. She said he…

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Daddy, do you really love your children?

Daddy, do you really love your children?

One of the disadvantages of ascribing the role of raising children to the woman in the African society is that it breeds fathers who end up getting emotionally detached from their children. I have seen how men who are involved in parenting their children become so attached and deeply bonded with their kids. Parenting their kids…

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I Stand with the Little Boys of Today

I Stand with the Little Boys of Today

We live in a society where the custodians of patriarchy have dominated and oppressed women for too long. Women have been subjugated for ages. There is a war brewing; raging like a volcano at the brink of eruption and the consequence is going to splatter on all and sundry. I am a mother, and I fear…

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CHILD CUSTODY IS NOT A GAME!

CHILD CUSTODY IS NOT A GAME!

Over the years, I have seen vicious battles of custody amongst estranged Nigerian couples and my heart bleeds. I hear how some  men go to schools to warn teachers not to allow his kids mother to come near “his kids” and I marvel. The other time I read somewhere where a teacher shared how the…

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Ogbeni(Mr), please go and dwell on the rooftop.

Ogbeni(Mr), please go and dwell on the rooftop.

I often hear people blame a woman for not being submissive enough,  hence the reason why her husband beats and abuses her emotionally. In fact for the past few days,  with the recent happenings on domestic violence, the internet has been agog with fallacious conclusions that a woman’s lack of submission leads to her being abused…

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Should they have barred you from their home?

Should they have barred you from their home?

To my friends and blog visitors who are not Africans, this post might be a little weird so pardon me, I just need to address this issue to my target audience, Africans, most especially my country people,Nigerians. It’s high time we begin to call out some of the little foxes that are spoiling the vine of…

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Cyber Bullies

Cyber Bullies

It’s amazing the extent of anger some people direct over another person or group of people on the internet. Honestly I am serious, people they haven’t met, or ever even meet, they carry this amount of anger and emit some vituperation that would leave you reeling. Share This:

You are hurting yourself If you are still compromising.

You are hurting yourself If you are still compromising.

It  took me lots of lessons before I learnt that compromising my believes, values and morals  about some certain things in life in other to make other people comfortable would always back fire and spiral me into unending hurt and bitterness. I am an empath and I get burdened with people’s  burden and just feel a natural knack to lift…

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Please don’t make us ashamed of being respectful

Please don’t make us ashamed of being respectful

The other day one of my sisters and I were having a discussion and we were talking about how people made us felt ashamed  when we address them respectfully.  I mean, you would try to be courteous  to a person and they would immediately set you straight on how you shouldn’t call them sister or brother, how it makes…

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