Category: OOA’s musings and thoughts!

My personal musings and thoughts.

Indecent dressing and control

Indecent dressing and control

I have read from some fantastic and  awesome men about indecent dressing, and how it is not the cause of rape. These set of superb men are part of my Facebook friends and I so much appreciate their stand and consistency on the fact that indecent dressing is not the reason for rape. They have…

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The other woman a.k.a side chic

The other woman a.k.a side chic

The other woman, popularly known as a side chic is a woman who is having an affair with a married  man. Often times she is aware that the man is married, and sometimes she is ok being the other hidden woman. At other times, she is not ok being hidden, and as she gradually climbs…

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Men, ego and the craving for respect

Men, ego and the craving for respect

“The only thing that a man needs is respect” I hear this popular statement every now and then being used to charge women to be respectful towards their husbands. It is said that the only thing close to the heart of a man, that he needs and craves, is respect. This statement has wreaked a…

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Dear woman, know God by yourself to avoid mental torture and emotional blackmail.

Dear woman, know God by yourself to avoid mental torture and emotional blackmail.

Sometimes last year, I watched a video which went viral. In that video  a church was holding a women only meeting . It was time for questions and a woman stood up and narrated her marital ordeal. She talked about how her husband smokes, gets drunk and exhibited all sorts of destructive attitudes. She said he…

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Daddy, do you really love your children?

Daddy, do you really love your children?

One of the disadvantages of ascribing the role of raising children to the woman in the African society is that it breeds fathers who end up getting emotionally detached from their children. I have seen how men who are involved in parenting their children become so attached and deeply bonded with their kids. Parenting their kids…

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Claustrophobia the devil (part 2)

Claustrophobia the devil (part 2)

I am sorry I was not able to bring the part two last week as promised, for those who missed the part one here is the link HERE . The first time I travelled out of the shores of Nigeria was in 2011. I travelled with Arik airline to London and it was simply beautiful. The…

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Claustrophobia, the devil

Claustrophobia, the devil

Hi, I am Oluwatosin Olajumoke and I am claustrophobic. I hate anything that has to do with being locked up in a space, I hate anything that looks like a clutter. I can’t sleep in a cluttered room, or else I will itch and perspire all through( this has gotten better now because I am a…

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Who is going to pray for her?

Who is going to pray for her?

Right from when I was a young girl I had this uncomfortable feeling whenever I go for weddings and I hear the new wife being thoroughly admonished on how she must be a good and a praying wife for her husband and how that is the only thing that can make her marriage work. Listening…

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Feminism and Individuality

Feminism and Individuality

Feminism, according to google can be defined as the advocacy of women’s right on the ground of the equality of the sexes. Individuality, according to google can be defined as the quality or character of a particular person or thing that distinguishes them from others of the same kind, especially when strongly marked. Synonyms to…

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